Thursday, February 26, 2015

The time I forgot the spoons

Today I forgot the plastic spoons in my kids’ lunches.  May seem like a non-consequential act, but I was in tears about it.

Let me set the scene:
Alisa, my oldest girl, had mentioned to me that the plastic spoons might need to be put in their lunch bags sine she noticed there was applesauce cups in their lunches.  Background: she fears I will forget things.  She comes from a history of people forgetting to take care of her in very important ways.  It’s completely understandable that she would be somewhat hypervigilant about spoons in bags.

However, I was annoyed.

I went into a speech about how I’m the mom and how it’s my job to take care of her.  “You don’t need to worry about things like spoons; that’s MY job- the Mommy!”  I wasn’t yelling, but I wasn’t sweet.  I was quite sure I packed them in their brown sacks since I made sure to pack them the night before so they would be ready to go for their field trip.

Sweet girl that she is, just apoligized and moved on.  I was satisfied that she chose to trust me in that moment.

And then an hour after I had dropped off the girls at school I found them.  Plastic spoons on. the. counter.

All I could think in that moment was that Alisa must feel so uncared for and all her fears of me not taking care would come crashing in on her and she would have a melt down at the Tellus Science Museum!

May seem dramatic, but those were my thoughts.  I cried.  I felt terrible.  I felt shame.

I hold myself large in my mind; my actions are weighty and too important. 

He is bigger than my mistakes.  I am learning to hold both the true weight of my faults and mistakes in one hand and His covering and forgiveness in the other and forgive myself.

If you have a need to forgive yourself for something you did as a parent today, please do it!  You have been covered!  And no matter how much your actions loom large, they are never bigger than Him and His ability to overcome!

I am not responsible for who I am.  He is responsible for His creation- He gave me my identity.  I did not create myself.  Nor can I create for myself a better or worse identity, true identity.  My identity comes from Him alone.
Since He is the "I AM"; I am the "you are"- no qualifiers or quantifiers.


Therefore, I am not my actions.  My actions or misactions are not who I am or who I am not.

Please hear that today dear mother, loving dads.  You are!  You have been made and created for pleasure and a purpose.  I hope these words encourage you as you tackle the mistakes you make and the challenges of parenting.

Thursday, February 12, 2015

Sweet recipes for your Valentine

Spent today looking back through the archives to find some ideas for my Valentine's Day weekend alone with the kiddos.  Thought I would share some of my favorite finds from over the years.  [I also noticed I have a thing for beets when it comes to recipe development ;)  Which is great for my health since they pack in tons of fiber and antioxidants with their rich purple-red goodness!]

I rarely use eggs and never use dairy, soy or gluten in my baking so all these treats are friendly to all sorts of allergies.


For the kiddos, a deceptively healthy Big Pink Smoothie (shhh! there's vegetables in there :)  I will make this one Valentines Day's Breakfast.

These Gluten-Free Red Velvet Mini Cakes are wonderful if you are going for something a bit more fancy.
I just might make one for just me this weekend :)

Paleo Friendly Treats:

Cherry Surprise Ice Cream would be nice, but you might want to use frozen organic cherries this time of year.
 Chocolate Cherry Almond Blondies
These are Paleo AND Vegan friendly, which doesn't come around too often ;)
Grasshopper Cookie Pie could be my favorite recipe I have made myself.  I have re-made this one more than any other recipe.  This pie also fits the bill for Paleo or Vegans as well since the filling is no-bake and dairy and egg free.  You can also use peppermint essential oil in this if you want to replace the peppermint extract and since it's raw, you still get all the digestive benefits of the peppermint oil.
For the Healthier Chocolate Lover 
Hope you all have a wonderful Valentines Day holiday!
Eryn

Wednesday, February 4, 2015

Candles and Story


If you know me or follow this blog, you may have heard or seen me speak about connecting with our children.  

Connection: the melding of hearts after a hard-fought period through muck and ugliness and heartache to get to a place where you are on the same side, the same team.

Easier said than done, right?

I have an amazing opportunity this weekend to share with some Created for Care adoptive mamas who I know struggle, as I do and have, with this whole connection thing.  As I have been thinking and praying about what it is that I am to give them, my story is what keeps coming to the surface.  Few things are more powerful than story.

Jim Gaffigan says it best when he talks about being a parent of multiple children, "Imagine you are drowning, and someone hands you a baby!"  We became parents of three- all at once- no time to get used to holding just one child up in the pool, much less all three :)  While this sentiment is hilarious and mostly true, it also sheds light on the reality of the feeling of overwhelm I had when my children first came home.

All the thoughts were swimming.  Can they heal?  Can I heal?  Will they be able to read/learn/calm/write/be social?  Will we find and grow into a connection with each other?  Would I ever feel sane again?

Amidst all of this time of floundering and struggling, there was a small voice that answered, "Yes" to all these questions.

And this is my hope for you, if you are in this floundering time, this time of overwhelm and fatigue, know that He also has a "Yes" for you and your children.  This is not the end of your story...

And as a testimony to His "Yes" for me and my children, we had a fun, relaxing day where directions were followed, laughter had, eye contact was celebrated, and relationships deepened between me and my two girls.

And we made candles!  These we really easy and I let the girls pick out which oils they wanted in their own candle.  And we thoroughly enjoyed each other :)

diy candles

Makes 4 1/2 cup candles
  • 2 cups natural soy wax (a bag of this is usually available in craft stores like Hobby Lobby)
  • 1/2 cup small mason jars
  • 4" free standing wicks (also available in craft stores)
  • Essential oils for scent- you do have to use a fair amount per candle- we used 10-12 drops per candle.  Here were some combos the girls came up with, but the possibilities are limitless:
    • Spearmint and Peace & Calming
    • Joy and Forgiveness 
    • Peppermint & Thieves
    • Grapefruit and Peppermint
Instructions:

  • Melt all the wax into a double boiler
  • When liquid, dip the bottom of the wick and press into the bottom of the clean mason jar
  • Then fill with liquid wax
  • Add essential oils to each individual candle
  • Cool in refrigerator or freezer for faster cooling time
  • Trim the excess wick with scissors and light
  • You can dye them with natural dyes.  I used beets for these, but next time I think I will just do white ones 

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Electrolyte Water



We all know that electrolyte sports drinks are very popular.  They are found in most vending machines and are quick and convenient.  But many of us don't think about how they are full of high-fructose corn syrup and dyes.  These harsh things on the body make me not want to drink these sports drinks, despite their containing good electrolytes like magnesium, calcium, and potassium.  

But aren't there just electrolyte waters that you can buy?  What about them?  Another reason why I don't do store bought drinks, even electrolyte enhanced water is because they always come in plastic bottles, which can contain endocrine-disrupting chemicals.  I know there is debate on this, but in my book, I would rather be safe than sorry!  So I drink out of stainless steel and glass as much as possible.  My kids take Life Factory water bottles, which come in fun kids colors, to school for their lunches and love them.

Another reason I don't drink out of plastic is because I love making my own drinks, like this electrolyte water, with essential oils.  And essential oils can break down chemicals in the plastic, especially if they are quality pure oils.  And since I know I use high quality oils, I don't want to have a bunch of leaking, melting plastic cups on my hands! :)

We use this drink whenever our kids are sick, for when we have felt de-hydrated, after workouts, and just whenever we feel like it because it makes us feel so good!  Our kids need extra help in the hydration department because kids from trauma are prone to inflammation and dehydration- so this recipe gets frequent use in our home.

It's important to use a high quality sea salt for this because that is where we get these amazing electrolytes and trace minerals that our body craves.

From the Celtic Sea Salt(R) site:  "Sea water contains minerals such as sodium, magnesium, calcium, potassium, plus many trace elements such as iron, zinc, and manganese. The human body uses the many minerals and trace elements in sea salt to create electrolytes, maintaining the “internal ocean” which is vital to the proper functioning of every system in the body."

Healthy Electrolyte Water with sea salt:

Ingredients:

  • 4 cups water
  • 1-2 Tbsp local raw honey
  • 3/4 tsp Celtic Sea Salt(R)**
  • Lemon, Lime, or any other citrus juice to taste
  • 2-3 drops of Young Living essential oil, my fav combos:
    • Grapefruit & Lemon
    • Lemon & Lime
    • Tangerine & Orange
    • All the citrus oils help to support the bodies ability to detox, too*!
**Celtic Sea Salt (R) is more nutrient dense and salty-tasting than other salts, so you may increase to 1 full teaspoon if using another brand

Method:

  • Heat the water, salt and honey on low heat in a pot on low, stirring frequently.  This is just to incorporate the honey and dissolve the salt and should only take 2-3 minutes.  Be careful to not over-heat!
  • Add desired essential oils, stir, and pour into a glass or stainless steel container and enjoy!  (remember, no plastic straws!)





*All recipes using essential oils on this blog are specific to Young Living essential oils only.  I cannot give recommendations and suggestions on any oils but Young Living's essential oils.  The statements made on this blog about Young Living Essential Oils have not been evaluated by the FDA.  These products and information are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.  Anyone pregnant, nursing, or suffering from disease or injury should consult with a physician.  If you are currently on medication, please do not stop.  It's always good to do your own research.  I have done mine for my family and we chose to incorporate YL essential oils into our lives.  If you are wanting to follow and do the same, please visit here for more information. 

Thursday, January 22, 2015

Taking Care

I awoke this morning to the blessing of my sweet husband taking all the kids to school and watching over the sick one and the young one while I got some much needed rest.  Sometimes rest isn't just sleep.  Although the importance of sleep for us mammas is up there!

For me, a relative introvert, rest is alone time.  I get energy from a few hours of alone time here and there.  And it's been a while since I was last alone.

As I'm sitting and reflecting this morning, I have been thinking about self-care.  What exactly does it mean, and why do we do so little of it?

I talk to mothers all the time about taking care of themselves, treating themselves, making sure they are getting rest and community time in so that they can in turn, be better with their children.  But I came across an idea recently that struck a cord.

"...taking care of yourself matters, of course.  But you shouldn’t take care of yourself just so you can take care of someone else. You shouldn’t fill your cup just so you can pour it out.  You should take care of yourself because YOU MATTER.  You are worthy of taking care of your body and nourishing your soul, even if not one person depends on you for a blessed thing." [quote from In Others' Words]

So. So. True.

And what is even better is that we have Someone in Jesus who fills us up just because WE MATTER.  We aren't just vessels or workers in the kingdom, taking care of little ones, supporting our family, cleaning, cleaning, cleaning.  We are women who matter just because We Are.  He is I Am; therefore, simply We Are.  We are worthy and we matter.


Some questions for thought:

  • Do you feel like you matter because others say you do or don't?
  • Do you feel like you matter when you accomplish your to-do list, getting all the things done, or getting them done perfectly?
  • Do you feel like you matter when your kids respond well to your parenting?
  • Do you feel like you matter when your friends, spouse, or partner treat you with love and respect?
All these above are ways that we cope or how we "make it" sometimes.  But these aren't reasons WHY we matter.  We matter because We Are [His/chosen/trusted/loved/created.....]!

What if our rest overflowed from our worth, and was not just done to help us survive the days to come? 


Here is what I'm doing right now for rest [because I matter]:


  • Reading good books, like Bruce Perry's and Maia Szalavitz' Born to Love: Why Empathy is Essential and Endangered.  Parents of kids from hard places, be sure to check out my resource page for helpful books.
  • Making sure I get some alone time.
  • Going through an online study like this one: Watch Trailer HERE
  • Letting the house go a bit...or a lot ;)

Tea and this chia pudding.  Breakfast alone is divine!
This is my office, where I like to hide out for alone time :)
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