"How does she manage to do it so well?"
"I don't know how (insert name of mom who looks like she does it well on social media) does it so much better than everyone else."
"If I could only just______ then I know my child will get better."
"Is it really OK to not get it right, to mess up a lot? Is it more important to say you are sorry than to get it right?"
"What if I damage them permanently?"
"What if they grow up and hate me?"
"What if they grow up and never forgive me for ____"
"What if it's always gonna be like this?"
"I had no idea things would be this hard..."
This is in no way an exhaustive list, but it is a list of things I have heard so many time from either myself, or other loving, dear parents who only want to be good at parenting and love on their kids well.
I have had something brewing in my brain over the past couple years. We did not become parents in the conventional way; however, we have learned that there are common themes of struggle that all parents share and common misconceptions that keep parents isolated, where fear seems to win out and shame can reign unchecked.
This is what I want to fight against.
So in my small attempt to combat shame, fear, and isolation, I have started Periscope-ing! What is Periscope? It's like Instagram with videos...at least that is how I think of it as an old-fogie! You can find me @pumpkinspantry with the search feature if you have the app. You don't have to have a log-in, you can watch them from anywhere if you know the link. However, if you do create a log-in, it will notify you when people you follow are broadcasting live.
I will be interviewing people. Our first one is here, but will expire at the end of today. I'm working on creating a Vimeo channel in order to keep them online for longer than the 24 hour periscope period. Also, they will be done with a pod-cast like feel so you can listen to them while folding laundry, washing dishes, headphones in the car so you can't hear your kids type settings :)
Looking forward to highlighting the real, the hope, and the grace with these interviews!